Mother's column – Why I, as a traditional mother, am not a tradwife


Christian Life

Chiara Lamberti, CNE.news

A traditional wife having an English tea. Photo Facebook, The Darling Academy

I am a Christian, I have two kids, I like to DIY, and I bake my kids' birthday cakes from scratch when I can. For my social media algorithms, I am the perfect target for content about what are known as "tradwives". But I think this content is a danger to my Christian life, Chiara Lamberti writes.

In fact, #tradwives have been a growing phenomenon on Instagram and TikTok for about 4 or 5 years now. And although most of their content comes from the United States, they also have a lot of followers in Europe.

Tradwives are mothers who post content on social media about their "perfect" lives as homemakers: kneading bread every day, gardening, homeschooling, dressing modestly but impeccably for every occasion, and affirming the beauty of a simple life lived in submission to their husbands and according to traditional standards.

They are generally Christian women who trace their lifestyle to a biblical view of womanhood.

Dream life

I make no secret of it: I feel attracted to this content. Victorian-style homes, retro and always perfect looks, lots of well-behaved children who are happy to help out around the house and grow up eating wholesome and healthy foods are a dream!

The importance of motherhood, caring for the family, and devotion and faithfulness to the husband are beautiful insights that encourage me in my vocation as a wife and mother.


Nevertheless, I believe that the constant exposure to these contents is a danger to my Christian life. Motherhood and traditional life are being sold as 30-second videos on social media.

Biblical ideas are presented as performances for mothers to go through. The Gospel is demonstrated as a religious life in which one must achieve standards that conform to social media trends, but not as the liberation of womanhood from all human sinful tendencies. Anti-feminism and a return to traditional values seem more like political and social ideologies than a sincere alignment with the ideas of the Gospel.

While secular society devalues wives and mothers, we must also be wary of the pseudo-Christian values that are often promoted by trad wives.

The Gospel never talks about vintage furniture, full skirts, and macrobiotic diets. It does not celebrate motherhood for its ability to conform to the values of cultural tradition. The Gospel speaks of mothers who show the love of Christ in their relationships with their children and husbands, who rely on the Holy Spirit to transform their hearts daily, and who live for the glory of God rather than for the aesthetic tastes of their followers.

So, my desire is to become a mother who lives more in line with the values of the Gospel than with the values of a society that wants to consume more and more eye-catching content on social media.



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